Do You Ever Feel Stuck? Here’s How to Truly Change Your Life

How to Change Your Life

QuestionRobin, I am stuck in such a familiar rut. I’ve had a dream for the longest time and I am not getting there.

Every time I start to take some action toward making my idea a reality, I begin to hear the negative voice in my head saying I can’t do it.

I can’t imagine how I’m ever going to make it happen. It’s harder and harder to believe I can do this. What am I doing wrong?


Sometimes it really does come down to you paying too much attention to your negative mind chatter.

You give the negative voice credibility by treating it as a reality.

Yes, I get how it’s so believable and that voice can seem to be telling the truth.

But, you are so much more than your negative thoughts.

If you’re really interested in knowing how to change your life, it begins with getting clear that you are not your negative thoughts.

When you give your attention to the negative voice: What if I can’t do this? How will I ever make this happen? What if I’m just a loser? How do you feel? I know I feel like crap when I do this.

In that moment of asking, what if I can’t do it, your focus is on the fear and the stumbling blocks.

The more you entertain the negative voice without stopping to question it, the greater the energy of feeling stuck and unsure becomes.

And, the probability of your failure deepens. Before you know it, you’re in that familiar hopeless “fork it, I give up” place. Wishing life could be different, but having no idea how to get there. Of course it feels hopeless and easier for you to give up at this point.

But don’t… You are NOT a loser.

You are here to overcome obstacles on your journey. You’re not supposed to entertain them like they’re a reality.

I know you’re here to do something important in your life. You cannot give up on your treasure.

But it’s not just about chasing your treasure. Part of the journey you’re on is to learn to recognize that negative voice for what it is–a dark shadow that’s longing to be part of the light that is your true self. Fully healed, whole, fabulous, fantastic and phenomenal.

Getting to where you want to be takes courage – sometimes it’s like walking in the dark without a flashlight.

I’m telling you right now, it takes courage to go beyond the negative voice. Many of us spend our lives just listening to it, believing it, and never really coming out of that dark and hopeless place.

Yoda never lies and Hamlet says, “Hark! Who goes there?”

If you really want freedom and joy in your life, you’ve got to make it a practice to recognize another voice that is your True Self. This is your wise inner Yoda. Get quiet, go inside yourself and ask for directions. You’ll know what to do every time.

The only thing I really remember about Shakespeare’s Hamlet is the line:

“Hark! Who goes there?”

What if you could treat your negative thoughts like an unknown visitor? How can you teach yourself to step back from those negative thoughts?

Celebrate your journey.

Every time you catch a negative thought and each time you remember to ask your True Self a question, it’s time for a party!  Woo hoo! This is the way to peace and joy, I promise.