Want to know the real secret to manifesting the life you’ve always dreamed of?
I don’t know if you’ll be ready to hear it. I don’t know if it will make sense, or if you can ‘take it in’, or if you’ll be ready to take your life into your own hands and do what needs to be done.
Some of the biggest mistakes people make when trying to manifest are ones you make too.
So do I. And it’s okay. The question is, will you hear these mistakes with a judgmental heart and forget to receive the wisdom for yourself? Will you cluck-cluck like a proud chicken how you already knew all of this? I don’t know. Humble hearts make the best learners.
There’s something in the air this week. Clients have been saying similar things: Something is wrong, I don’t know why but I’m just not feeling happy, I’m anxious, I am beginning to wonder if life is going to pass me by, am I normal? Does this happen to everybody? Someone asked me, What have I done wrong? Am I being punished? Then yesterday, my last client of the day wondered if he should fire me: I am starting to wonder if these healing sessions with you are even working, what about the results you promised?
What is the secret to the magic of manifesting?
How is it that other people seem to have the life they want but you don’t? You want a life you feel good living, one where you feel happy and content, one where you feel lit up from the inside and ease your middle name. So how do you manifest that kind of magic for yourself? What is the secret?
What is the right way to manifest ?
Secret #1: Commitment
Three truths that none of us like to hear but I gotta say ’em now so, deep breath:
1. Nothing happens if you don’t practice.
2. We all have trouble making ourselves a priority.
3. We’re all a little bit lazy.
Are you willing to make a commitment to yourself?
Secret #2 Focus
Your worry, fear and negativity become prayers and the strongest vibration wins.
Even IF you have a list of goals and totally intend to stay on track, if you’re allowing your crazy thinking to run the show, what you actually are doing is sending out prayers and setting intentions for stuff you do not want. People who have crazy, whacky, dramatic, chaotic, scattered days often are anxious and scattered worriers. Worry is running your show. What if you could begin to train yourself to catch the worry and just say, stop it?
When it comes to manifesting, the strongest vibration wins, no matter what you are focused on. I tell people this and they look at me like I am insane. Give me one good reason why worrying is a good idea. You can’t really do it, can you? It’s like you’re sitting on a big egg, convinced the reason it will hatch is because you worried about it.
Are you willing to let go of the worry, and focus on what you are wanting instead?
Secret #3 Be selfish
People aren’t always honest about what they want. It doesn’t seem ‘nice’ to want things for yourself. It doesn’t seem holy. It doesn’t seem motherly. It doesn’t seem fatherly. It doesn’t seem… Years of conditioning went into this mistake. One question can wake you up: How’s that working for you so far?
It’s not just ALL about being good and helping others and earning your way into Heaven. It’s not about renouncing FUN. You are here to experience Tangible Joy. When I was little I loved to play the game Red Light, Green Light – when I ask you what you want, your list needs to feel like you’ve given yourself the green light and you have given it your everything. When the feelings bubble up that are more red light in nature, you need to stop and take a breath and remind yourself it’s okay.
It is totally okay to enjoy the goodies in life. But I understand why you might have trouble with this. Like I said, years of conditioning went into this one… I love the Course in Miracles lesson 77: I am entitled to miracles! A miracle is a shift in your perception.
Are you willing to shift your perception around what it means to be selfish?
Secret #4 Play to win
Tell me the truth: When was the last time you actually got into your heart space and sincerely and genuinely asked yourself what you’d truly love your life to look like? And then wrote it down, or drew it, or made an altar, or something?
Most people I know have read a LOT of books on the topic, but haven’t done the work. Taking the advice into your heart and making it your own is key.
Nobody likes to do what other people tell them to do. So find a way to make the idea your own, and do it. Do the steps, baby. That’s all it takes. Sit down, light a candle, get sincere. Don’t phone it in on your way to the grocery store. Don’t squeeze it in as you are drifting off to sleep with the TV on. You are worth every ounce of effort. You matter, and your beautiful life matters. Would you like a free downloadable coloring page to manifest with? I made one for you here 🙂 I believe in you 2014 manifesting coloring sheet
Secret #5 Feeling great while you wait
Ever order a meal at a restaurant and then fall into a deep depression because your food hasn’t arrived yet? Have you ever stood up and thrown the chair at the waiter because it took some time for your meal to arrive? No, not unless you’re a toddler. You know how to trust and feel good while you’re waiting…your food is coming, you’re with nice company, soon you will get to eat.
It’s the same thing when it comes to your dreams. Do you ever notice how crappy it makes you feel to focus on the absence of the thing you want? But when you’re feeling bad because the thing you want to happen isn’t happening, you are no longer in alignment with that longing, are you? You are not a match to it anymore. And it’s much more likely you will call in the opposite of what you want instead.
It’s a bad idea to build anything from a platform of fear. Your energy goes into all that you do and people can feel it. So if you’re feeling scared, worried or concerned, stop. Don’t buy into the terror stories you’re spinning. Learn to recognize the way you freak out and work with this energy. Don’t just hatch another wild and crazy scheme. Learn to feel great while you’re waiting
Are you willing to practice feeling great while you wait?
Secret #6 Gratitude
Most of the time, people seem a little gratitude-parched when it comes to manifesting, they’re too impatient to actually stop and feel the gratitude for what is showing up now. I have spoken about honoring the trickle before. When you want to sell 30 pieces of your art, and you sell one, you’re on the right track and it’s time to have a small party! Break out the mariachi band 🙂 Celebrate and say thank you. Regardless of the scale, when your dream manifests, you need to feel the thank you. Feel the gratitude. If you say it but still feel disappointed, this is a half-assed attempt. It reminds me of the time I was 8 and all I wanted was a Barbie Beauty Shop and I got a freaking subscription to National Geographic. I was more than disgusted with my haul!
Your attitude is gratitude. The only thing you should be saying right now is YES and THANK YOU and MORE PLEASE. But if it’s feeling like a stretch, just stop and take a breath and center yourself.
If it feels like a stretch right now, can you find a few other things you’re grateful for in the moment?
Secret #7 It takes courage and bravery and LOVE
Best to have a little message from the Love Sheriff for this one 😉
So what is the real secret to the manifesting magic?
Did you get to the bottom of this list still wondering where the wow was? I find myself telling people a lot: it’s simpler than you realize, but you gotta apply these tips. Remember Secret #1? Apply yourself. Don’t be lazy. We all have trouble making ourselves a priority but nothing happens when we don’t.
There is nothing wrong with wanting things.
It’s easiest to manifest when you are already at peace and feeling ease in your life. When you are tuned in to lack and fear and dis-ease, this is when wanting becomes a problem because it makes you feel needy and less than. And even though I know you don’t mean to do that, your unconscious prayer has more to do with fear and worry than anything else and you get what you think about. So think with intention. And then, be the light. Get centered and clear with gratitude for all that you are and have and from there it’s easy to practice: YES Spirit, thank you for this, I’ll have some more please 🙂
Thanks so much my friend I hope this supports you and unknown and amazing ways.
Remember: You’re amazing and your life is precious!
Lots of love,