There are days when I wish I owned a megaphone. And if I did, I’d take it up to my roof where I’d shout:
Attention! Attention! To the drainers, haters, and shamers… calling all controllers, passive aggressives, and the crispy, bitchy peeps. To anyone thinking I owe you something, and to the distant relatives still expecting me to take care of your unresolved sh*t: I am speaking to you!
Step back, this is my dance space.
Step back. That’s it, keep going, I’ll let you know when it’s far enough.
I know you think you’re just trying to help me which must be why you feel entitled to speak to me about the hundred gajillion ways I seem to be doing life incorrectly.
Yes I heard you, you believe you’re worried about me and you’re just trying to help.
(Nope, that’s not far enough. Keep backing up.)
The thing is, I didn’t ask you and I did not invite you (not intentionally anyway). And as much as it might hurt us both to hear this, from here on out I am loving you from afar.
I have tried hard to make this work between us.
I have spent countless nights feeling afraid of you and worrying about how to make you happy. I have betrayed myself in ways that are still hard to think about.
I am done. From here on out, I will have my back, no matter what.
Some people are best loved from afar.
From this moment forward, I am loving you from afar; from a distance where I can appreciate you as a person and still maintain my peace of mind and overall sanity.
To my friends in the Love Posse:
I could hold this all inside, staying vigilant to the dangerous predators and harmful idiots but it costs me a lot to do that.
It costs you too.
We have full permission to claim our boundaries. No guilt or shame about it.
This is our life, our beautiful sweet life and we get to decide. We don’t have to suffer our way through challenging person after challenging person in order to earn our stripes. We just have to set better boundaries.
Don’t let yourself be confused about this:
Some people are best loved from afar. It is not an unkindness to keep them at a distance.
It is a mercy, for you and for them. So keep backing them up until you feel like you can breathe and your face can relax again. I know it’s scary. I know. I am scared too. But together we can do this. We got this.
Release the line, let them float out to a spot in the Universe where you can look at them with loving eyes.
Don’t get lost in the spiritual ease of turning the other cheek or working a bit harder at your affirmations.
If you love someone, set them free — Sting
I am sending you love today. You are a good person. Rock this truth like you mean it 🙂
Remember: You’re amazing and your life is a gift! Don’t waste precious time on peeps who aren’t a right fit for you!
Lots of love,