Tag: boundaries

Go Where You’re Celebrated, Not Where You’re Tolerated

Posted Robin HallettPosted in Intuitive Healing

“Don’t try to convince anyone that you’re a good person. Quit trying to win someone over who isn’t kind but only tolerates you-you don’t need their approval. Be kind, be respectful, but you don’t have to stay… go where you are celebrated. Keep living forward and trust that the right people are there. You never need to convince anyone to love you.” – Joel Osteen Rejection. I can remember that yukky feeling going all the way back. It seemed lots of people didn’t love me as much as I loved… …Read More »

Don’t Pretend You’re Fine with It, Set a Boundary Instead // Tea with Robin Podcast Episode 54

Posted Robin HallettPosted in Tea with Robin
don't let the turkeys get you down - wisdom from robin hallett

The other person pushing on you is not evil, even if they may need a kick in the pants. What if we saw them as teachers who are here to help us learn something instead. In this episode of Tea with Robin, I share some stories about times when I handled my boundaries well, and some experiences which went off the rails. Our inspiration is from a poet you may know and love and our letter is a followup from Episode 50 #lostinamerica2. All this and more. Grab a cuppa… …Read More »

You Are Not the Cosmic Cruise Director! Here’s What to Do When You’re Done Giving to Everyone Else First // Tea with Robin Podcast Episode 52

Posted Robin HallettPosted in The Journey
you are a supercollider

Are there people in your life who ask for so much from you that you can’t manage to stay nice with them? Do you ever wish you could just tell them what you really think, or pop them one with your caretaker’s clipboard? Well, before it gets to that point, come listen to this episode! You are not the Cosmic Cruise Director for anyone unless you choose to be. 🎧 Listen to Episode 52: Cosmic Cruise Director, Irrational Joy, #motivationtochange My session notes including time stamps are below http://robinhallett.libsyn.com/episode-52-cosmic-cruise-director-irrational-joy-motivationtochange This… …Read More »

The People Who Treat You Badly and What to Do About It // Tea with Robin Podcast Episode 35

Posted Robin HallettPosted in Media, Tea with Robin

What do you do about the people who don’t treat you right? How do we not go to kookytown getting so upset and handle what we need to handle without throwing ourselves under the bus? In this episode, I’m talking about all the scenarios–from strangers to friends to family members, and share ideas on what to do with your upset and how to not let it ruin your day. Today’s inspiration comes from Mr. Joel Osteen who gave me one of the best quotes ever. This week’s letter comes from… …Read More »

Your Kindness Is Not a Permission Slip

Posted Robin HallettPosted in Boundaries, Relationships

People don’t always understand what they’re asking of you. When they want a little something extra, they’re not thinking about what this little extra will cost you. They’re not considering what their thinly veiled demand will mean to your sanctuary. They’re trying to to get under the rope because they believe it matters. When we’re upset, we get a little messy. And we handle things badly. We all forget about common courtesies from time to time. BUT. That’s no excuse. You can’t let people run you over. Your kindness is… …Read More »

Healthy Boundaries and How to Set Them Even When It’s Scary And Nobody Understands Why You’re Upset // Tea with Robin Podcast Episode 34

Posted Robin HallettPosted in Media, Tea with Robin
robin hallett intuitive healer setting boundaries

If you ask me, we spend way too much time worrying about things that other people might do or say in response to us being who we are. We worry about the perfect way to be in order to avoid upsetting anyone else and because of that we end up doing things we don’t want to be doing. We say yes when we mean no. We pretend to care when we don’t. We act interested when we aren’t. And in those times when we speak up and do what we… …Read More »

Here’s to the Dark Angels in Our Lives

Posted Robin HallettPosted in Intuitive Healing, Relationships
what to do when you're upset

Here’s to the dark angels in our lives who come to wake us up. They bring their stinky gifts…the ones which whisper to our parts on the verge of readiness to advance. Stinky gifts which come in crappy packaging, and require some work before we can get to the good part. What I am talking about when I say, Dark Angel: • The mother in law who seems blind to the beauty and delight of your amazing children • The guy who constantly speaks to you like you’re an idiot… …Read More »

Sell crazy someplace else, we’re all stocked up here…

Posted Robin HallettPosted in Boundaries, Intuitive Healing, Relationships
sell crazy someplace else

I got an email a while back from a relative and then I had a hot and prickly stomachache for two days. This person, my uncle, had subscribed to my newsletter list and although I kind-of-sort-of noticed the name, I didn’t really put two and two together; it’s not like his name is Zebulon or anything. After his receiving a few of the weekly love notes I send to The Love Posse, he sent this scathing reply: Shame on you Robin, you can’t even bother to write a personal note… …Read More »

Not My Circus, Not My Monkeys

Posted Robin HallettPosted in Intuitive Healing
not my circus, not my monkeys

Hello sweet Friends, Here we go launching into the holiday season and you know what that means! Between the moments of merry-making, there will be lots of opportunities for us to practice choosing peace and ease over the other stuff we could be swirling in. As you’re making your way, I am inviting you to remember a very important truth: You are not the monkey whisperer and this isn’t the circus. It’s just too hard to manage everyone and their whackness – and anyway, it’s not your job! Better for… …Read More »

Boundaries: How to rock them without becoming a sweaty hot mess.

Posted Robin HallettPosted in Boundaries, Relationships
Boundaries. How to rock them without becoming a sweaty hot mess.

This is a little pep talk for those of you in the Love Posse who are having some rough times with standing up and honoring yourselves. If you’ve been experiencing kooky boundary stuff with people in your life–especially if it’s becoming somewhat of a recurring theme–this post is for you! Lots of us are confused about what boundaries look like on a spiritual path. Walking a spiritual path does not mean being walked on. A spiritual path is not about being good either. When I think about the tough stuff… …Read More »

Don’t Let the Turkeys Get You Down

Posted Robin HallettPosted in Boundaries, The Journey
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Or, How to not continue the crazy cycle of trying to please people who will never ever get you or understand you–not to mention why in the eff would we want to try and please the turkeys?! I know there are times when you think you’re too much, or too kooky. You worry about being too this, or too that. Judging who you are instead of lovingly embracing yourself no exceptions. And I am guessing that like me, you got into this bad habit because your people told you in… …Read More »

But You DO Know.

Posted Robin HallettPosted in Entrepreneur
But you DO know

  “You don’t get to decide the way you shine, just as a star cannot choose – a star is simply a star and it shines. It doesn’t spend precious time and energy critiquing the way it shines. A star doesn’t go around saying, Oh is this valuable? Do the planets like how I shine? No, a star does not say this. It just is. It’s a star and it shines.” — Robin Hallett, Love Is the Metric As someone who loves you and wants to support you getting where… …Read More »

When It’s Time to Take off the Superhero Cape

Posted Robin HallettPosted in Intuitive Healing
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Superheroing is something we learned to do well in childhood. Many of us learned to fly with our capes on before we could even walk. Keeping the peace and keeping people happy mattered to our own survival and so the needs and wants of the people around us came first. Often we were at the mercy of these people (and their moods) and so our own needs became tied to making things easier/better/happier for others. Their happiness equaled ours, their upset equaled ours. Today this need to take care of… …Read More »

Some people are best loved from afar.

Posted Robin HallettPosted in Intuitive Healing
Some people are best loved from afar.

There are days when I wish I owned a megaphone. And if I did, I’d take it up to my roof where I’d shout: Attention! Attention! To the drainers, haters, and shamers… calling all controllers, passive aggressives, and the crispy, bitchy peeps. To anyone thinking I owe you something, and to the distant relatives still expecting me to take care of your unresolved sh*t: I am speaking to you! Step back, this is my dance space. Step back. That’s it, keep going, I’ll let you know when it’s far enough.… …Read More »

Set a boundary, save a life: how to set boundaries and conserve your energy (with video and audio)

Posted Robin HallettPosted in Media, Rock Star Readings
how to set boundaries and conserve your energy

Do you ever have the situation where you want and need to say NO to someone but feel the difficulty of it weighing you down? How do you handle setting boundaries so you conserve your own energy? My friend recently said to me, Just finished a call with X. I love him, but I’m exhausted. He seems lonely. I need to protect myself from the drain next time. I too had a call from our friend X yesterday. Yes, he was lonely. And yes, I could completely understand the drain and… …Read More »