Release the Elephants! How to Avoid Family Drama During the Holidays

the elephant in the living room

Here’s how to shift your perspective and let go of the upsets family drama can bring. Especially now at this time of year when things seem particularly challenging. Nothing brings on the elephants like a holiday season. (do you know that saying, the elephant in the living room?) The elephant stands there in the middle of the room while people gather around and pretend it isn’t there. The elephant seems to be blowing a trumpet of truth and discomfort and sometimes even leaves you yukky “presents” on the floor… but mostly we act like it is not happening. But on… …Read More »

When It’s Time to Stop Doing and Start Being

stop doing start being

There are days when it finally hits you. All this doing isn’t helping. The thing you were pushing forward so hard on is not working out. But despite all the evidence, you’re still standing there with the hammer in your hand, insisting you can make it work. Your stubborn streak is a gift, there is no one who can hang on quite like you (except maybe me!) but in this case the stubborn streak isn’t helping. Step away from the hammer. Life will not give up on you. It will continue to deliver its little messages inviting you to stop… …Read More »

You Belong Here

There is no shame in needing help

Hello, sweet friend, There is a place in this Universe that’s entirely yours—always. It doesn’t expire or diminish. It’s your space, waiting for you to step in and shine. You are perfect as you are. There’s nothing more you need to do than simply be and trust. You are meant to be here. The light within you is meant to be shared. What you bring is valuable. Keep walking your path in your unique, beautiful way, trusting your heart and desires. Be patient with the parts of yourself that feel afraid or uncertain. You’re learning and healing, and every experience… …Read More »

Be Kind and Gentle with Your Resolutions

be kind and gentle with your new years resolutions

Be super kind and gentle with your resolutions this year. Remember, happiness is not just about what you look like. Or what your bank account looks like. Or what your metrics say. Addressing physicality while ignoring your spirit brings a temporary shift. True transformation means we look deeper and do the inner work. This is a time of new beginnings. Lots of us are making resolutions right now. The goals I am hearing most are: 1. Lose weight or get into shape 2. Create abundance and dial down the debt 3. Overcome an addiction like smoking or drinking or eating… …Read More »

You Can Trust Your Journey

From May 2015 I am writing this post to offer a little love and encouragement to you as you continue this journey of waking up. You are doing such great work, already there is so much transforming in your life. I know it’s difficult sometimes to trust your journey, so let’s take this a little bit further, shall we? 🙂 Sometimes we can’t see that we’re stuck in the kiddie pool when what we really want is the experience of an ocean. We worry about the details. It can be difficult to trust that we’re really on the right track.… …Read More »

On Loving Yourself Enough to Leave the Surface of Things

you can trust your journey

Most of my life I was trained to believe that my basic goodness was tied to my outer appearance. It was my face, my hair, and the number on the scale that determined whether or not I was acceptable, worthy. The clothes I wore held the power to determine if I belonged or would be shunned. Later, my earthly credentials began to factor in–the bigger my degree, the better my standing. Later still, it was my car, my house, my bank account that guaranteed my security. I was trapped on the surface of things. All the while I was striving… …Read More »

I Believe in YOU

I believe in you. Yes, I do. Even on the days when you don’t believe in yourself. I am 110% confident that you are capable of doing anything you set your mind to. I believe in you. You’re a spark of the Divine. No part of you is here by accident. Sometimes you believe you’re worthless. You KNOW you won’t succeed. You’re SURE you’re a loser. For a moment, let’s marvel at your ability to stay so strong in your self-doubt and disbelief. Let’s WOW your powerful imagination shining the spotlight on what’s wrong with the picture. Do you realize… …Read More »

Same Cray Cray, Different Day

Same Crazy, Different Day

“If all your problems or perceived causes of suffering or unhappiness were miraculously removed for you today, but you had not become more present, more conscious, you would soon find yourself with a similar set of problems or causes of suffering, like a shadow that follows you wherever you go.” Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now Ugh. In all honesty, there are times when I feel like a nut. Some story has taken over my mind, and I am caught up again. I might cry, I might get depressed, I might believe whatever crap my mind is trying to sell… …Read More »

Today We Follow Our Bliss

follow your bliss

Today we will follow our bliss. We are bold and courageous and we will not give our energy to Don’t, Can’t, or Won’t. Today we choose to invest in the places which feel good, where the vibes are all lit up and it feels effortless and fun. We will follow that sparkling feeling, we will follow our bliss. We will surround ourselves with the people who make us feel good. Instead of caring so hard about the naysayers and the poo-poo-ers, we will be grateful for ones who receive us like dignitaries.   Today we are too blessed to be stressed.… …Read More »

All Hail, the Almighty Hairball!

I wake up some mornings feeling panicked about advancing beyond the threshold of fear I’ve been feeling terrified a lot lately. Digging into some real deep terror work here. I’ve been naming bigger dreams for myself and bigger fears. I’ve been clarifying my language and tightening my offers. Treating myself as more and asking for more. Saying no and yes. And as a result there are a lot of terror feelings activated in my nervous system. (and exhilaration and joy and freedom but I am trying to make a point here…) not everyone will get it but if you’re someone… …Read More »