As a kid, I often felt helpless and unsafe around the people who were supposed to love me the most. I was at the mercy of their fluctuating moods and addictions. The experience of not being cherished or wanted was ongoing and relentless. My personal work today is sitting with how that wounding gets tweaked… …Read More »
originally published June, 2017 My mother’s funeral. The thing I remember most was my near-constant desire to lunge at the microphone WWF style and shout something very un-eulogy like. All of the people there, these “close, special friends,” most of whom I did not know at all inside this massive church, telling me how my… …Read More »
I was baking cookies when my aunt called to say that my dad had died. She had to repeat herself twice. And the shock of it all was so much that I burned my arm on the oven rack, forgetting to use the oven mitts. I still have the scar along the inside of my… …Read More »
HI sweet Friends, I am sending so much love your way right now. It takes a lot of courage to be on this journey of awakening and I really appreciate that you are doing the work! My healing sessions with many here in our Love Posse have been about the bitter pill we try and… …Read More »
People don’t always understand what they’re asking of you. When they want a little something extra, they’re not thinking about what this little extra will cost you. They’re not considering what their thinly veiled demand will mean to your sanctuary. They’re trying to get under the rope because they believe it matters. When we’re upset,… …Read More »
Here’s to the dark angels in our lives who come to wake us up. They bring their stinky gifts…the ones which whisper to our parts on the verge of readiness to advance. Stinky gifts which come in crappy packaging, and require some work before we can get to the good part. What I am talking… …Read More »
I got an email a while back from a relative and then I had a hot and prickly stomachache for two days. This person, my uncle, had subscribed to my newsletter list and although I kind-of-sort-of noticed the name, I didn’t really put two and two together; it’s not like his name is Zebulon or… …Read More »
This is a little pep talk for those of you in the Love Posse who are having some rough times with standing up and honoring yourselves. If you’ve been experiencing kooky boundary stuff with people in your life–especially if it’s becoming somewhat of a recurring theme–this post is for you! Lots of us are confused… …Read More »
Or, How to not continue the crazy cycle of trying to please people who will never ever get you or understand you–not to mention why in the eff would we want to try and please the turkeys?! I know there are times when you think you’re too much, or too kooky. You worry about being… …Read More »
My friend texted me to say Robin Williams had taken his own life. Nanu nanu, she said. Rainbow suspenders forever, I said. This amazing, bright, shining, funny man who delighted the world has decided to leave on his own terms. We don’t really know what happened, but for sure it is shockingly sad to… …Read More »