It blows my mind sometimes how distorted our thinking is around receiving help. Many of us grew up blaming ourselves for the lack/failure/brokenness around us and carry shame to this day about admitting to our own needs. In this episode, I share some love on what it’s like to receive from a clear or healthy… …Read More »
It is nearly impossible to birth yourself alone and on your own and yet every day I hear from people who are attempting to do just that. Rather than supporting the “just suck it up and keep moving forward” movement, I want to encourage you to stop and acknowledge the tender spots you find inside… …Read More »
Many of us left childhood with some seriously warped understandings about God. It’s hard when the early teachings of our little selves bump up against the infinite and timeless beings we actually are. A spiritual practice is going to bring these bumps along for healing on your journey to wholeness and it’s important you allow… …Read More »
When we fall into the old stories of upset, comparison, not being good enough, we are in our suffering. As hard as it seems to be, it is still possible to help ourselves out of that hole by recognizing our choice to give our attention to this upset again. In this episode, I talk about… …Read More »
For years after my mother’s death, I had this recurring nightmare: She was returned from the dead, and she wanted her money back. The worst part about those dreams was the part where I had to explain to her that the money was all gone. My throat would close up and I couldn’t speak… …Read More »
I was baking cookies when my aunt called to say that my dad had died. She had to repeat herself twice. And the shock of it all was so much that I burned my arm on the oven rack, forgetting to use the oven mitts. I still have the scar along the inside of my… …Read More »
originally published June, 2017 My mother’s funeral. The thing I remember most was my near-constant desire to lunge at the microphone WWF style and shout something very un-eulogy like. All of the people there, these “close, special friends,” most of whom I did not know at all inside this massive church, telling me how my… …Read More »
Superheroing is something we learned to do. Many of us learned to fly with our capes on before we could even walk. Keeping the peace and keeping people happy mattered to our own survival and so the needs and wants of the people around us came first. Often we were at the mercy of these… …Read More »
Learning to walk away from the stupid things people say and not need their good opinions of me has been a huge challenge on my journey. There are times when I get caught up in feeling hurt and upset, but I disentangle myself again. My recovery time is quicker these days because I remember my… …Read More »
Or, what to do when you’re in a funk and you can’t make yourself do anything “productive” and you just wanna hang it all up and head for the coast but you’re scared that this will mean the end. I’m drinking coffee and reading Stephen King. The windows are open, I’m listening to crickets and… …Read More »