How to Stop Thinking About All the Bad Things in the World // Tea with Robin Episode 79

How to Stop Thinking About All the Bad Things in the WorldThere are times when it’s so easy to get ourselves worked up in a state of fear — just watch the news, read Facebook… it’s hard to avoid something upsetting.

If you’re here reading this now, then this is the perfect time to practice remembering that we are free to choose how we want this to be for us. We are free to carry in our hearts the state of being we choose.

My experience is up to me. I am free. I might not be able to change the weather (or whatever I am observing) but I can definitely choose how the experience is going for me.

Now is always new, and we can reorient ourselves again. We can manage our energy and get free again.

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Quotes shared in this episode:

III. The Responsibility for Sight

We have repeated how little is asked of you to learn this course. It is the same small willingness you need to have your whole relationship transformed to joy; the little gift you offer to the Holy Spirit for which he gives you everything; the very little on which salvation rests; the tiny change of mind by which the crucifixion is changed to resurrection. And being true, it is so simple that it cannot fail to be completely understood. Rejected yes, but not ambiguous. And if you choose against it now it will not be because it is obscure, but rather that this little cost seemed, in your judgment, to be too much to pay for peace.

This is the only thing that you need do for vision, happiness, release from pain and the complete escape from sin, all to be given you. Say only this, but mean it with no reservations, for here the power of salvation lies:

“I am responsible for what I see.
I choose the feelings I experience, and I decide upon the goal I would achieve.
And everything that seems to happen to me
I ask for, and receive as I have asked.”

Deceive yourself no longer that you are helpless in the face of what is done to you. Acknowledge but that you have been mistaken, and all effects of your mistakes will disappear.

It is impossible the Son of God be merely driven by events outside of him. It is impossible that happenings that come to him were not his choice. His power of decision is the determiner of every situation in which he seems to find himself by chance or accident. No accident nor chance is possible within the universe as God created it, outside of which is nothing. Suffer, and you decided sin was your goal. Be happy, and you gave the power of decision to him who must decide for God for you. This is the little gift you offer to the Holy Spirit, and even this He gives to you to give yourself. For by this gift is given you the power to release your savior, that he may give salvation unto you. — A Course in Miracles Text Chapter 20 Section III

You might enjoy the Course in Miracles practices I offer here.

“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” — Wayne Dyer

“With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.”
― Wayne Dyer

“The breezes at dawn have secrets to tell you. Don’t go back to sleep! You must ask for what you really want. … Don’t go back to sleep!” — Rumi


Related links for this episode:

Send Your Love, Not Your Worries

On Getting Past the Struggles of Your Problems // Tea with Robin Episode 76

Tonglen as a practice for helping others


Books mentioned in this episode:

Existential Kink, Carolyn Elliot PhD

The Essential Rumi, Translation by Coleman Barks

A Course in Miracles: Combined Volume

You might enjoy the Course in Miracles practices I offer here.

Thank you for listening, may it serve you!

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Tea with Robin Episode Unedited Transcript

Hello Beloved, it’s me Robin. Robin Hallett intuitive healer and light sparkler at Robin Hallett calm and this is tea with Robin. On today’s episode when world events, get you down, we get to double down on practicing and taking responsibility for how the weather in our hearts, is today, and every day, plus some inspiration on sending your love, instead of your worries, and we’ll have a letter from hashtag change is the only constant. All this and more come grab a cup of yum yum, and meet me here. And before we begin today’s episode I wanted to let you know there is a fabulous healing circle with me taking place online, on March, the 26th details about that can be found on my website at Robin slash courses. Hope to see you there. And now on with the show. Hello gorgeous friend. It is me Robin. Welcome back to the podcast tea with Robin. Welcome to Episode 79. And if it’s your first time here. Hi, it’s me Robin, as they say on The Love Boat come aboard. We’re expecting you. Welcome. So, my friend, how are you doing today. How’s the weather in your heart. Are you being kind and gentle, loving appreciating this moment, celebrating your light celebrating your freedom, celebrating your possibility. Anything is possible, are you celebrating that you have lots of choices. I hope so. I really, really do. Over here, it’s a beautiful evening Friday evening, I’ve just finished work for the day and sitting upstairs in my little studio space and the sun is just coming over the roofline sunset, just wow the pinks and purples of the sky right now it’s amazing, just gorgeous. And the weather in my heart is good today. I’m feeling a mix of gratitude and appreciation and that same possibility I was asking you about. Everything is possible, anything is possible, and really minding my vibration today we’re going to talk about this coming up I want to talk about a number of things. I’ve been keeping a little list going this week again, number of things I want to share with you today. But first, did you bring a cup of yum yum data. I have a delicious, cup of rose tea, my telsey rose tea, my favorite with just a touch of sea salt, and a touch of stevia. So amazing the Michael Murray’s in my glass to you, raising my glass to you. Cheers to this beautiful moment, cheers to the light in our hearts to our amazing opportunity possibility to this moment now. Now as always knew. So cheers to us. Cheers. Yum. That is so good. And I want to say a special shout out to those of you who tried something new this week. You risked your comfort zone, you tried something different. You showed up in your fear and you did the thing anyway, raise my cup to you and say Hip hip hooray for you, and cheers. So today I want to talk about you and I are being intentional experiencers on our journey. We’re always experiencing in every moment we’re having an experience we’re experiencing life. Every moment, we’re having an experience, and

sometimes I think it can be challenging to realize we’re choosing the experience that we’re having, we’re choosing the experience we’re having. So, even though, let’s say, I can’t control the weather, I can still choose how I respond to what’s going on, you know I can respond. And that’s up to me how I’m doing, how it’s feeling on my insides is all up to me, which is so cool, which is so amazing, actually, we’re always choosing and we’re free to choose. We’re free, we are free free free. So, outside events going on. Whatever is happening in the world, whatever is happening in your family whatever is happening at work, you know, there can be a lot going on. We’re still free to choose how it is for us, we’re free to choose. We’re free. And I find this incredibly helpful to me in those times when I’m practicing and stuffs going on in my life, I mean this week we’re seeing a lot more information on the news in the media about the corona virus. A lot of stuff about the US election process. You know, we can get ourselves really worked up in this state of fear sometimes and this is the perfect place to be practicing, I’m free to choose how I want this to be for me. I’m free to choose the perspective, I want to carry in my heart, about what’s happening. And really, anytime I’m upset. I can practices. I use this mindset, but I’m free to choose I’m free my experience is up to me, even when number one was diagnosed, and we were going down by cancer we were going down. He was going in for his treatment, and as as things are going on with friends or in my life or you know like I say out in the world. I find this incredibly helpful to practice. I’m always choosing, and I’m free to choose. I might not be able to control the air quotes here wherever, but I can certainly manage how it is for me,

or disagree. How does that feel free does this resonate for you. Does it feel helpful for you to hear that. You know I don’t know I think it honestly really truly depends on where you’re at, on your journey for a lot of years when that wasn’t my truth, I really felt much more helpless and at the mercy of whatever was happening out in the world didn’t realize I had so much control over my inner state of being, that’s just where I was at at the time, but today. It’s really a wonderful thing as I see what’s going on in the news or I see what’s going on and you know there’s some thing always stuff happening in our lives right, I can still choose. This was a very interesting week for me at work. Sometimes people get mad at me. It’s hard to believe that isn’t it, it’s hard to believe anybody could get mad at me. Right. So I and I it was a really nice opportunity to reflect back on how stuff like that could have taken me down years ago, and I would have been up really worrying about it. Am I a bad person am I. Did I do something wrong What did I do you know if somebody got mad at me I automatically assumed it was true. And it was my fault. And of course I was banned. And today, you know it’s such a different experience that this week when as it happened. I really could stay in my stay centered in my heart stay centered in my body stay centered in my mind sort of just understand that that’s the experience. Somebody else was having, and how they were choosing to to roll with it, and it didn’t feel the same as it once could have done. That’s a beautiful celebration for me, and I’m talking about that today because you know in my heart I, I’m hoping that we could all decide to do more of the practice of realizing that if we don’t like the experience we’re having, we can change it. We can change it, because the experience we’re choosing. We’re responsible for that it’s up to us. It’s up to us. And I am saying so even if people are freaking out about this virus scare, even if there’s a run, you’re in the store and there’s a run on all the canned goods or the alcohol wipes or. There’s an outbreak very close to you. You can still choose the weather in your heart, you can still choose the perspective, you can still choose your grounding, you can still choose to become deeply rooted and present, and choose to take appropriate precautions, without going into the mass hysteria. You can choose, you can choose you are that free. You’re also free enough to choose to go with the freak outs, it’s still up to you. I love in the Course of Miracles. In the course of miracles in the Course in Miracles. There’s this section called the responsibility for sight, and there’s this little section in chapter 20 called people call it the responsibility prayer, and it says, you know, this is the only thing you need to do for happiness for your release of pain from pain, and the complete escape from any idea that you could ever be bad or wrong or not doing your life the right way. See only this but mean it without reservation in here it is. I am responsible for what I see. I choose the feelings I experience. And I decide upon the goal I would achieve everything that seems to happen to me. I asked for and receive as I have asked, and it goes on to say, deceive yourself no longer that you’re helpless, in the face of what is done to you acknowledge that you’ve been mistaken about your perception or your story and all effects of your mistake will disappear. So, you know, as I, as I think about it today. There’s really nothing that could be happening in the world.

That needs to take me down. Take me out, you know, put me to bed for days, whatever, whatever. Take me out. No. There’s really nothing. And I suppose I should have this have had this disclaimer a bit earlier, I’m talking about, people like us walking our journey, really practicing and being intentional with how we place our focus and our emotional well being and really practicing this journey. So, I’m not talking about clinical depression or traumatic stuff that’s been happening, you know, this is not the time to be practicing the responsibility prayer, you know, But for those of us like just hearing things in the news or like I said somebody gets mad at you or you have a really frustrating day at work or insert your most recent example here, we can practice, and we can practice becoming free. And I love that. Wayne Dyer was another beautiful soul who who still is taught you know if you change the way you look at things, the things you look at will change, and he would often say that with everything that’s happened to us we can either feel sorry for ourselves, or treat what’s happening as a gift. It’s either an opportunity to grow or it’s an obstacle that keeps us from growing so we always get to choose. So this time is an opportunity to choose this whatever coronavirus this whatever little things, whatever health crisis. ever is happening. The disaster digital or whatever that is, we are still free to choose how we want it to be, you know, not even the news can bring you down. The negative comments. The disparaging remarks whatever it is you sometimes fall into witnessing on Facebook or wherever you are, you know, the doom and gloom we still have the power to close the screen. Turn off the TV turn off the radio, change the subject. Walk away. We have the power we are free. And I should say something about that because this is something I’ve been noticing. You ever see that saying good vibes only. I kind of love it and I kind of dis love it, sometimes too. I need them art once good vibes only and then on the other side of the page I wrote all the words backwards because it feels like that. Like, there’s something odd about the statement, good vibes, only the only for me is like the most offensive shove I could ever give to any energy coming at me that is not good bites. But what does that mean I’m including what I’m saying good vibes, only. It’s like there’s some kind of energetic push with that or some kind of defense move or some kind of offensive move you know where I’m not at ease in my body. So if you’ve ever had this thing where sometimes friends in Healing Sessions will say I don’t want to jinx myself. I don’t want to yuck. My yum. I don’t want to you know get bad karma, or get infected by other people who are always on the struggle bus, the struggle bus is another phrase. I’ve got a bit of an issue with. But, you know, it’s up to us whether we carry the upset or not, it’s up to us whether we allow ourselves to be bothered or not. It’s up to us if we’re assessing something as low vibration, or negative vibrations, and we choose to stay in it and we continue to observe it. It’s no longer out there, it’s in here, I’ve sucked that into my awareness and it’s becoming one with me because I’m responsible for what I see. Feel what I think,

how I respond. That’s up to me and that should be in your head ugly free really exciting to hear. It’s like a permission slip to choose how you want to be. So if we judge other people for being on the struggle bus. And then we spend gobs of time managing our thoughts about it. I think it means we’re on the struggle bus to, we got on somewhere somewhere between mid stuff, and the next one we got on with everybody. And we began writing. So, it’s such a lovely thing to realize, I can reorient myself here and now. Now, is always new. And we can manage our thoughts about things that way, and get free again. It kind of cracks me up because if I’m here judging you, I’m, I’m doing it too. I’m holding the same energy, as I’m saying is going on with you. So, when I free myself up that way it also frees me up to be incredibly accepting and compassionate, even for other people’s experience. And it still, it does not mean I have to take you home with me and cook you three meals and have you sleep over at my house and have a eight hour conversation with you about the state of things, because I’m always choosing and I’m always free, and you’re always free, and you’re always choosing, so we can still have beautiful boundaries and not need to keep repeating to ourselves that some people are low vibration, or you know they’re on the, they’re choosing to be on the struggle bus or they’re choosing to be in their anxiety about this and that. Yeah, because doing that gets it for me too. I had a meditation teacher that used to say, buy one get one free by observe it for you, I get it for me for free, I get it too. So, yeah, I love it, I love it in a way because I, I can be in my compassion, I can be in my energy of love and sitting with somebody else who’s really going through it and really afraid or receiving some difficult news or kooky news you know the way life sometimes it’s just like there’s three loop de loops on the roller coaster that happened you were not aware of and somebody just called you and let you in on that fact suddenly your whole day is shift. Yeah. I can be in my compassion and my loving awareness without going there, too. So, that’s kind of what I wanted to talk about today, you know, we could learn to let go a little bit and learn to sit in our hearts and say, Hey, is this how I want it to be, you know, is this what’s going on today and this is how I want it to be. And that’s not to spiritual bypass. If you have feelings feel them. Allow yourself to move through them. And you can still be a good co pilot a good wingman. Do you remember that episode be your own wingman. You could still be your own wingman and guide yourself along in the direction of your choosing. Still possible. So we’ll do the practice and be incredibly kind to ourselves and, you know, as it comes to things like Corona virus. We can do a couple of things at once. One is we can just use our good sense or good common sense and take care of ourselves and our family and our surroundings I know lots of people, things are changing, you know, at work, they might ask you not to come to work they might ask you, they might close. Different things are happening, and so it makes sense to take good care of you practice your self care, and also help yourself energetically and emotionally choose the state of being you want to be in. So you don’t have to deny that it’s happening. And you don’t have to go full bore into it you can be somewhere in between, and that’s so awesome. Like tonight, number one husband went off to play medieval Barbies with his friends. And I made him a little homemade pack of alcohol wipes, and

I think it’s good to be loving, kind, it’s good to be thoughtful with love. No need to be freaked out in fear. So I hope that helps somewhere, something, and if that, you know, resonates for you. You’ll share this on with somebody who might need the support might need the love to. And here comes the extreme portion of our broadcast. You know the other pieces. I do find incredible comfort in knowing I am an aspect of the Divine. I am eternal. No, there’s a part of me that goes on. No matter what happens to this body, and I just found a. I’ll just insert that here. Just as another reminder if it’s helpful for you to practice that. In terms of power powerful answer and the kind of powerful fear. No, it’s you I hope that helps. Yeah. So inspiration today. I’m thinking this morning. It has been a while since we’ve done, like a group. Healing experience. And I thought today would be the perfect day to send our love. Just to practice for a few moments together, sending our love all around the universe, sending our life to all corners far and wide to all of the people we know and love, who are going through things going through stuff that people we don’t know and love are going through stuff, you know, I guess we watch the news, can we hold this light in our hearts and send love, not our worries. We’ve got I’m going to put a few things in the show notes today because I’ve written other articles done other episodes that speak to this so beautifully, because sometimes I think we just don’t know what to do when tragedy happens or, you know, like I said, What’s going on right now in the news and it can feel frightening. We might really appreciate a practice to sit with, and so I thought of this, when I call, send your love, not your worry. So we can do that together now. So for this exercise. I don’t know why I’m giggling, but that’s just part of my, my charming personality, and his sense of humor. So, I’ve got a candle here. Okay quick Let me blow it out first. Because I always liked a candle record, and I got this beautiful time from a friend of mine that I love that she gifted me when I was leaving for Bali so I could take it with me and meditate it’s a tiny little prayer bullets so beautiful. So, here’s what we’ll do. Visualize you know what’s going on for you today. This could be for you. What’s going on for people that you love. You know, we’ve already talked about what’s been going on in the world. So, I’m gonna light a candle.

Here we go. So, this is a podcast. Let’s take a few moments together. And you can, I know you know this you can pause it and take more time for yourself or do this again later for a longer time. I’m going to ring the bell.

In this moment now. I send so much love, the love of the Divine the love of the universe, the love of creation. And my heart Love to You, to the world to friends, going through whatever is happening now. I send ease. I send peace, completely trust that all is well. And, and it will continue to go well. And that we all be eased from our fear that we remember the practice, and choose intentionally. And so it is. Amen. In the hole. And, boy.

So you can do this. Anytime. When you feel bad, especially when you feel that feeling well what can I do I’m so far away or I don’t know what I can really offer. If we hear about friends going through difficult times and stuff, it’s easy to be overwhelmed by a variety of emotions and then end up doing nothing but sort of wringing our hands, and saying I feel so bad, but I don’t know what to do so. Oh well, you know, we can practice sending love, and it’s the most powerful thing we can do to take that moment, and hope somebody in your vision, your inner vision in strongest of light and seeing them making their way. You know like strong and powerful, and you’re doing this and all as well. And also knowing it’s totally okay. Whenever you’re asking experiences. It’s totally okay. But I’m not going to project my worry and my sadness and my fear onto you, you know, that’s what I can do. So I hope that that helps. I think I’ve told you this story before but how I got into that practice of doing that was hearing the beautiful, Nikolay elaborate Giza give a talk about how she made it through hiding in her pastor’s bathroom with like seven other women during the Rwandan genocide that period. She made it for months and months and months. And she got through praying the rosary and it just sounds like such an amazing unbelievable difficult, all of that that journey, and he or she is, you know, teaching from that experience and the night I was there watching her give the talk, there was somebody in the audience who was like weeping uncontrollably out loud and as you as you hear the story. You totally get it why somebody would be going there, especially if they known people or had family. And she started talking on the spot about that saying, you know, with such love and kindness. She asked if somebody could go over and sit with this person who was so upset, and give them some comfort. But she said you know lots of people have said, I feel so bad for you. I can’t even imagine what this must have been like it makes all my problems pale in comparison and she said, you know, the way you are most helpful and the way I am most often the way we help the world is to live our own lives to the fullest, to be in our center to live from a place of joy to do the things we say we want to do live our life. And it was such a beautiful piece of wisdom there. And to also say, yes, via consoling via comforter, but from a place of strain. So, let’s shine a light. Let’s not dull things down with more sadness and despair, more anxiety. This doing this is how we’re going to help. Doing this is how we’re making a difference. So that’s what I can do today. That’s what you can do today. We can send our light, send our love send our peace. Light a candle on speaker person’s name, his cell phone powerful. Love that hope you’ll give that a whirl if you don’t already do something like that. Create a little spot, a little altar, where you can know that, especially if you’re like I don’t know what to do, you know, knew that. It’s beautiful. We can think of our friends and send love we can breathe in peace and exhale stress, a form of Tong Len Pema children talks about this a lot. That’s us doing something powerful, so no need to be in a state of like, I don’t know what to do so I’ll do nothing or anything. Do that practice, and let me know how it goes. I’m full of one more thing.

Today, one more thing. And so, one more thing I noticed that we some time. Do this thing where we compromise our strength, and the true power we could be offering our friend. When we are worried or. Then we truly feel out of a sense of being kind or supportive, or solidarity, you know, you might be the one person and out of a group of 10 that is not like, Oh, I feel so bad for you. And might make you feel bad about yourself in a way like me judging yourself for not going down into the dunks over stuff, like other people are as whatever the sad news is or the or the event. So, I’ll say it is very good to be compassionate to be empathetic to hug, love, support, encourage to say Hang in there. You got this. But that person also needs your strength needs the encouragement the memory the light of who we truly are, that we are powerful beyond measure. And that counts, too, so I guess I’m saying if you ever feel guilty because you think you should be more, you know, sad or tragic in your response, check that. Ask yourself why and ask yourself how you truly feel, the more I do this work, the more I stay in alignment with my true self. I find that I’m not so devastated by scary things, and there’s still a part of me that’s like what is that okay, what’s going on here. Is there something wrong. No, no, you’re getting more deeply grounded in the truth of who you truly are. So it’s okay to extend that to your friend or to the world to be strong in your knowing. So I hope that helps you in some way. So, let’s go on to today’s letter. This week’s letter is a beautiful one It fits right along with our topic. If you’ve ever been in that place of wondering that place of fear of change fear of transformation transition is coming and it’s hard to make the leap. This is for you. This goes out to you ad. She writes, if you felt so inclined, I would appreciate it so much, if you talked about fear and feeling stuck. Fear of change, fear of transitioning into new phases of life, fear of being honest about what you really want. Because it feels as though it is wrong to put yourself first when you are used to doing quite the opposite in your life. I have no doubt you have probably covered this already, but I would greatly appreciate your views on it. Thank you so much. Well, thank you, too. It’s such a perfect time and topic. This has been a week where I have gotten a lot of mail from friends

and also have been feeling it myself, and also some of the friends that I hang with them we chat with them, talk about this feels like a time of transition time of transformation. I don’t follow astrology really but I hit their head. this is one of those times where I’m like something major had to be going down, not sure what planets are squaring the moon or what’s happening but you can feel it, there’s been a lot, and I was saying to a friend of mine the other day, it’s like life keeps saying Go big or go home, things are shifting and changing. It’s almost like the old stuff doesn’t work. The old stuff that should have done the trick. Doesn’t the stuff that used to work for us, isn’t and no I’m tired top of everything happening in the world. And whatever is going on in your own life, of course there’s a heavy amount of fear that comes with it. So what I come to in myself is, hey, you were not meant to be shrink wrapped into a certain point of time forever, a certain love a certain creative outlet, a certain way of doing. I try and help myself. Remember that I wasn’t meant to stay frozen in time. And where I feel resistance. I want to look at that. I want to look at that and help myself through this time, because the truth is, everything is always changing and we are always changing, and those of us who thrive, we do so because we allow that change that transformation that expansion is such a great word. What we loved five or 10 years ago, will not be the same for us today. And I also love like how hair Cletus said the only constant is change. So we can count on change happening. Don’t always like it, don’t know, especially when it’s scary. And there is something to that. No knowing that helps me, and maybe it will help you. It’s just things are always changing. It’s the truth. And that means I am always changing. You are always changing. So it’s okay if we are changing, you know. Oh, I feel so good right now even just talking to you about that. I feel eased in my body. And I hope my friends who I have been talking about this with too is that, helping you as well. Everything is always changing, could help ourselves with that philosophy practicing remembering that change brings lots of new, fresh wonderful things to the fore. You know, so the feeling stuck part. I encourage you to own that you have a choice in how you see it remember earlier I was talking about the responsibility for site in the Course of Miracles, I am responsible for what I see. And so, if I noticed that I am feeling stuck. I can make a change, do I want to make a change, is the question. I don’t want to speak for you, I will speak for me there are so many times where I would rather go around saying I’m stuck. Then face what it is I need to do. I tell you, truly, you know, I’m stuck it’s so it’s almost like so much easier for me to go around saying I’m stuck, I don’t know, I don’t know, and I’ve really been working on this and myself and again I don’t want to speak for anyone else. I’m tired of that I’m tired of sitting behind that cloak of unstuck. So,

a couple episodes ago I was reading you this full poem I think it was Episode 76 from Rumi, where he says the breezes at dawn have secrets to tell you, don’t go back to sleep. You must ask for what you really want. Don’t go back to sleep. And I realize sometimes that by saying I feel stuck or if I feel lost or I’m worried that I’m not amounting to anything anybody else got that one. I’m casting my vote for that. I’m raising my hand and saying, more to two more scoops of feeling lost and afraid, please. pulling out my ice cream cone to the world. Please give me more of that. And that’s not what I mean. So it doesn’t have to be hard. It doesn’t have to be, you know, some horrible thing happened to me before I willingly go in the direction I’m most excited to go in, I can choose, because, you know, I’m responsible for what I’m calling to me and what I’m creating and that begins with what I’m noticing and saying, even in my mind. So, you know, we can ask for what we really want. So you and you said that here that you know you’re not really feeling so comfortable naming what you want, there’s fear of being honest about what you really want. Because you feel like it’s wrong to be selfish. So here’s my vote. And I vote we really, we really do this, make yourself a list, and this does not come from me this comes from a wonderful author I’ve just found she has a book called existential kink. Her name is Caroline, Carolyn Elliott, PhD, she talks about something called the desire inventory. And she suggests that you write I desire. Whatever it is, because it will make me feel, whatever it is that you want to feel just make a list I desire blank because it will make me feel blank, and this is for you. It’s something you can burn later. You know that shame of being selfish this worry and fear of being so selfish. We need to own that. I want to be selfish. I desire, being selfish, because it will make me feel free, go ahead and write that down. I desire to care, be carefree. In my choices, I desire, thinking only of myself in my direction. Next direction. Okay, so seriously I suggest that you do that. I know it’s scary. And we’re too far along to allow ourselves to stay here. So it’s beautiful to notice you’ve been doing quite the opposite in your life. You get to change, I say this all the time now is always new and it does not matter what you said, even yesterday, even if you tattooed. Your truth on your arm or on your forehead and you have to go around the rest of your life saying, I no longer feel that way. That’s great. We should celebrate that and continue to move forward, you know, because this is you were talking about this is you and your beautiful life, right, trusting that the most important thing is to stay faithful to the creative impulse on your insides to remember your truest self, you are a spark of the Divine and change is the only constant, and if you’re doing, like I told you my teacher was saying, if you’re doing your journey, you are going to be expanding and what you once loved will no longer apply it just is how it is, or it’ll deepen something about it will shift. So I hope this helps you, and friends listening along, I always love your letters, I need more letters, so if you’ve been thinking of writing me one and you’ve been worried about it or thinking it’s to this or to that. Just go ahead, start an email. Now, open your browser and let’s go.

Hello at Robin Hallett calm, or messaged me on Instagram or Facebook, nothing too small too silly to whatever, and you can always be anonymous that’s totally cool. So, my friends. Hope you have a beautiful week. I’m so glad we got to be together today, it’s pitch dark here in the studio now and just my little gamble is going to beautiful. I am going to go make a nice cup of tea and sit outside for a little bit. I think the weather is warm enough with the right amount of blankets, I could do it here in Chicago, it’s probably still like 38. But I love to go see the moon, at this point. Yeah, so, you know, if you love this episode, I really would appreciate you sharing it on. If you see me sharing it somewhere, please share it on, help other people. Be as free and awesome as you are, you know, that’s what it’s all about. Let’s help each other. And I love seeing how many people are stepping into talking about a new way to see the fearful stuff that’s being talked about right now in the media. So be one of those like sparklers for others. And you can always support the show by leaving a review I really appreciate that. It helps so much, and there’s also a Donate button if you feel called to support my work. There you go. So that wraps another gorgeous Episode 79 is in the can. And I’m sending you so much love and this has been me Robin Hart sparkler changes the only constant Hallett. I’ll see you here next time next week or in a few minutes. same bat time same bat channel. Bye bye.


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