Your Kindness Is Not a Permission Slip

your kindness is not a permission slip. How to set boundaries.

People don’t always understand what they’re asking of you. When they want a little something extra, they’re not thinking about what this little extra will cost you. They’re not considering what their thinly veiled demand will mean to your sanctuary. They’re trying to to get under the rope because they believe it matters. When we’re upset, we get a little messy. And we handle things badly. We all forget about common courtesies from time to time. BUT. That’s no excuse. You can’t let people run you over. Your kindness is… …Read More »

It’s Your Rodeo, Baby. Are You Getting in That Ring?

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It’s your rodeo, baby. Are you getting in that ring or are you sitting this one out? Either way, the show goes on. If you’re in, best don your hat and grab your gear. You’re going to need it when you ride 🙂 Sure, your fearlessness and bravery will get you up on the horse, but it’s your courage and determination that will see you through to ride another day. Faking it only gets you so far. I am sure plenty of people can pretend to ride a horse…until they… …Read More »

Don’t Let the Turkeys Get You Down

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Or, How to not continue the crazy cycle of trying to please people who will never ever get you or understand you–not to mention why in the eff would we want to try and please the turkeys?! I know there are times when you think you’re too much, or too kooky. You worry about being too this, or too that. Judging who you are instead of lovingly embracing yourself no exceptions. And I am guessing that like me, you got into this bad habit because your people told you in… …Read More »

Let Yourself off the Hook. Do Whatever You Want. Let Go.

Let Yourself off the Hook. Do Whatever You Want. Let Go. How to not lose it when things go wrong.

Or, what to do when you’re in a funk and you can’t make yourself do anything “productive” and you just wanna hang it all up and head for the coast but you’re scared that this will mean the end. I’m drinking coffee and reading Stephen King. The windows are open, I’m listening to crickets and the smell of smell of fresh cut grass fills the kitchen. The yumminess of this takes me back to a time when I had no responsibilities and life felt pretty easy. I take a beat… …Read More »

You Are Both Caterpillar and Butterfly – How Not to Fear the Transformation

Not Another "Just Suck it Up and Keep Moving Forward" Post

On intentions, manifesting, and getting what you wanted, and the transformational gunk that accompanies the whole process. So you set your intention and the Universe answered! But holy yikes, here comes the major change and upheaval. And now this isn’t feeling so exciting and wonderful anymore. Instead of being delighted and grateful, you are feeling a bit scared and confused about what you were wanting in the first place. Or maybe it’s more that you feel unworthy of this. Or you don’t believe you have your shit together. And you… …Read More »

Have Courage, This Will All Work Out

Have Courage, This Will All Work Out

There are days when you begin to suspect that this is the beginning of the apocalypse. Days when it feels like the roads are all closed. Days when you’ve been fighting your hardest to keep up with the whackness. Days when enough things have happened and now all you can hear are the small fry in your head telling you, just lay down and let the zombies take you already! Maybe you feel this situation has gone on long enough and you’re ready to quit. But please don’t give up. … …Read More »

Ode to Winston the Wonder Dog

Winston the Wonder Dog

Note from Winston the Wonder Dog: My parents took me to the vet a few weeks ago because they said I was honking too much. After all that poking and one unhappy thermometer experience, it turned out I had cancer. I swear I felt fine, other than the honking. My parents were brave. They made such a fuss over me–way more hot dogs and bacon in my days. And hamburger. And steak. And lots of massages and walks. Basically they let me do whatever I wanted. And yesterday, they were… …Read More »

Want Your Happiness More Than Your Upset

want your happiness more than the upset

On why we need to stop honoring our suffering like it’s the most important thing happening everrrrr and how to stop freaking yourself out in a bad way. Want your happiness more than the upset. It’s something I talk about with friends often. And I love it when my friends say, but how how how? How can I want the happiness and peace when my upset is all I can think about? How can I sit here and wish for joy when my heart feels like it’s being ripped out… …Read More »

How to Manifest Everything You Want

How to Manifest Everything You Want

On how to manifest everything by loving what you already have while you wait for more to come. Or how to take your amazing life by the reigns and ride like the unicorn you are 🙂 Sometimes friends will write to me looking for support. They’ll speak to the terror of not having enough money, or the fear of not finding (enough) meaningful work, or tell me about the product launch they’re worrying about, or say they’re struggling to lose weight… these are friends who go to bed worrying and… …Read More »

What We Can Do in Times Like These

what we can do in times like these

I have no interest in adding any more darkness in the world. I will not contribute to the anger, the meanness. I’m not interested in dissonance. Don’t talk to me about the assholes who are making things worse for the world, instead tell me what YOU are doing to be a force for good. Tell me what you’re doing to contribute something helpful. Love is my dharma and I will practice this wherever I go. In times of personal conflict it’s my practice, when clients call with family drama and… …Read More »

How to Enjoy Your Beautiful Life and Not Let the Same Old Crap Get You Down

How to stop being so uptight and enjoy life

No matter what, this moment now is pretty effing awesome but I really get how hard it is to be in that place when you are feeling anxious and uptight about what is happening in your life. Our mind can zero in on some major crappenings and refuse to let go. The topics it can get stuck on are plentiful, from bills to messes to broken things to dramas to upset people and their complaints and all the stupidity and then the migraines not to mention our kiddos or our… …Read More »

Sometimes, life opens us like a flower

how to handle it when life opens you up

Sometimes, life opens us like a flower. Usually it’s in response to something we’ve been praying for. Something we’ve been working so hard to open up on the inside; something we’ve cried and cried about because we just cannot find the effing doorway. We can’t find it, and we can’t find it, and we can’t find it.   And then suddenly we are opened up. And when it happens, it is so wild, so radical, so moving… for a moment all you can do is stand there stunned. There are… …Read More »

Manifesting Your Heart’s Desire

manifesting your heart

  Hello sweet Friend! This is a little love bomb on manifesting your heart’s desires. As awakened peeps on the journey, it is important to develop an understanding of our own issues around manifesting. Do you believe you deserve the life you would love to be living? Are you living a day to day experience you feel proud to claim? Is it okay for you to put your needs first? Do you believe the blessings rain down upon you? These are just a few of the issues I help people… …Read More »

Sending Love and Light to Orlando and Everyone Everywhere

how to send love and light

I wish it was never the case that we suffer tragedy. Truly, I wish that we could find a way to be at peace–especially with each other when we disagree. That the energy of love and respect be there always–especially in how we choose to respond to horrible things people do. Sometimes my friends say I am a truth teller. And usually when they do, there is this little feeling of shame inside and a voice that says yeah but I am always afraid, (always afraid) to talk about my… …Read More »

Say Thank You If You’re Ready to Leave

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…or how to get over or get through or get past or get beyond whatever has been plaguing you without having to commit murder or become a monk on a mountaintop or anything else crazy or drastic before you can feel better 😉 May this go to just the right hearts today!   “Whatever you accept completely you go beyond, if you fight it you’re stuck with it” — Eckhart Tolle Most of my life I was trained to believe that the way you get over something was to keep… …Read More »