Hello sweet Friend!
Today I am sharing my own super-duper “Rock It Like You Mean It” manifesto with you. These are my own policies for rocking it in my life, they keep me feeling centered and aligned (and sane!) and at full maximum good juju.
May this serve you today. Enjoy!
1. You are the #1 priority in your life.
Your needs come first. I’m serious. You are the priority. Your needs should not be put on the back burner. What can you do every single day to take care of yourself first?
Meditation + intention setting.
My own mantra: I love myself always in all ways.
2. Make space for your Fun Factor.
Play, play, play is your new mantra!
Find something fun to do each and every day just for you. It can be anything you want. Small or large… just do it. Have a little fun every day. You SO definitely DO have time for this!
Over the years, I have tried all kinds of fun things like ice skating lessons (I was the only 40 year old in my class of mostly 5-year-olds), video games, gardening, painting, mosaic making, jewelry making, dance party… you name it I have done it. Every single day, do something fun! And the best part? You determine what is fun for you, nobody else 🙂
3. We’re gonna need some thicker skin
No matter what you do, somebody somewhere will not be happy with you. Count on it. Be okay with that.
Besides, it’s not your objective in life to go around getting everyone to like you and join your fan club. Practice the thought: It’s not personal.
Your one true objective in life is to find joy and peace for yourself first and then go out and share what you know about this with the world.
4. Surround yourself with positive people.
Who is in your inner circle?
The people you are with the most rub off on you. So, it’s imperative that your inner circle be made up of those who uplift you, and can celebrate your authentic sparkle. These peeps aren’t threatened by your success.
And, they aren’t afraid to hold your hand when the chips are down either.
They know a little something about having fun and will make you laugh often. When you go away after having spent time together, you feel uplifted and inspired instead of drained.
5. Toxic peeps make for toxic vibes.
The people in your life who are draining, downers, complainers, whiners, gripers, and the generally not motivated… um, time to say goodbye. I cannot stress enough how completely sapping these people are to your energy field!
Whoever it is, if they leave you feeling drained and exhausted (or if they tend to really piss you off) you know what to do!
Remember, it’s not personal. If you’re around people who bring you down, just imagine what happens to your good juju… it leaves!
6. Stop owning other people’s problems.
When peeps around you are upset, it’s only natural that you want to help. And it’s fine to help. But sometimes, that wanting to help is a completely unproductive and not helpful use of your time. When you feel obligated it’s a different story. When you feel guilty, it’s a problem.
My fail safe approach: Send your love, not your worries. Trust that they can figure it out. If they cannot, trust them to ask you for help. Let them do it before you jump in. You do not need to put out every fire that springs up around you. If you’ve been doing this, you already know how much time it costs you on a daily basis. And all you really have to spend is your time… so be intentional with it.
7. Be in alignment with your passion and what you stand for every single day.
So what do you stand for?
What do you believe?
What are you passionate about?
You need to be in alignment with these vibes every day to the best of your ability. This is your core knowing, stick to it.
It’s more than just practicing what you’re preaching. I am talking about embodiment. You need to BE that.
Stay in alignment with your authentic self. Honor this. And then, be in service of what you love. Share your light with the world, not your empty batteries!
8. Practice your worthiness.
Worthiness is a practice for sure.
Most of us are struggling with balancing our old wounds and confidence issues. This is a balancing act that will continue throughout our lives as we enter new and bigger arenas. It’s completely natural.
So, it’s good to make feeling worthy a practice. Over time, you’ll learn that you deserve the good in your life. Make a habit of saying YES, THANK YOU and MORE PLEASE when the good stuff happens. Make it a daily practice to notice the cool things that are happening for you. Watch the tendency to focus on the negative stuff and complain because that is more like practicing operating in suffering mode, not worthiness mode.
9. Welcome your fear but don’t buy into it.
There’s an old saying: Fear knocked on the door and love answered, but nobody was there. When you’re afraid, sit with your fear, take a few moments and breathe with it. Find out what it’s trying to tell you.
Then, remember that you are a spark of the Divine. You did not come here to play small. You are here to shine bright like a diamond!
10. Find something to be happy about.
You do not have to suffer in order to feel joy. You don’t have to work really really hard in order to get somewhere good. I mean it. Just practice your excitement. Find something to be happy about. There is peace to be had in every moment. Yes, even the sucky ones. That’s why it’s a practice. When you get a little pissy, stop and ask yourself, “is this really worth it?” Sometimes I tell people that what we focus on is like placing an order, it’s like worshiping at an altar – do you like what you are requesting? If the answer is no, you’ve got one choice: Find something to be happy about. It may sound simple or cheesy but it isn’t. This is powerful stuff – the practice of seeking things to feel happy about and grateful for does alter our brain chemistry. So find something and focus there.
How does this manifesto sit with you? What did you notice? Are you already doing some of these things? I bet you are because you are amazing!
Go get ’em, Tiger!