Don’t hold back your light. Who you are is an intentional creation from LOVE itself. Holding back your sparkle is like calling LOVE wrong.
What if we decided not to keep telling that one horrible story about that one crispy person who said the horrible thing that changed our shine forever and decided to take back our sparkles!
This week, on Tea with Robin, I’m talking about you shining brightly and not holding back one single sparkle, even though there are people who won’t get you or even like what you’re sharing.
I’ll tell my own stories and share experiences of healing this for myself too. The inspiration this week is timely, some love and advice from e.e. cummings and our letter is from a friend who’s wondering where the abundance is. Come grab a cuppa yum yum and meet me here.
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The opinion of other people and how to be free, if we love our stuff, shouldn’t that matter more? Let’s talk about your light authentically. Plus some inspiration from e.e. Cummings and we’ll have a letter from a friend who wonders about how to call in abundance.
How is the weather in your heart today, my friend? Always, I hope you are practicing being yourself everywhere you go, no skipsies or changebacks. The world needs your light, exactly as you are!
Over here, things are good. We had a sweet morning in the garden today. I talked about the hummingbirds and my flowers… and of course MR. SUNFLOWER 🙂 (see photo above).
Cheers to you, love! (I am sipping a peppermint tea with coconut milk and sea salt).
Here’s to our magnificence, our light, and our truest hearts.
And a special cheers to Francis, who said:
“Thank you thank you thank you, I was guided to you, meant to find you and feel your sincerity in everything you write draw and say, and you allow me to feel okay about doing things my very own way and allowing myself to see the value in what I have to offer.”
(a funny noise happened and I tell a story about the Psychic Fish and all the funny things that happen in our house as if to underscore a point)
Sometimes a topic appears to me over and over, in the healing sessions I offer but also in the guidance I receive. This week was no different.
I think lots of us know the feeling of being ourselves and shining our light — we know the feeling of going to shine and being laughed at, shamed, teased… we know how that feels, right?
I had some harsh experiences with my mama, she lacked a lot of the warmth I wanted… my sparkle made her uncomfortable, she couldn’t handle it and so she needed to squash it.
Over the years it’s been a theme.
But I am so grateful for the lessons because we’re just never going to have all 100% of everyone behind us. At some point, we must become free of seeking the good opinion of other people or we will never get out on our own way.
I am learning to say thank you for the reminders, and also not demonize anyone.
You can’t demonize someone else without getting it for yourself.
So even though there is still a part of me who worries about sharing my truest self,
We can learn to handle the feedback that comes if it comes because we long to share and we shouldn’t worry about the poo-poo people and naysayers over the love offered by our truest Posse. Right?
If we worry more about the naysayers then we are absolutely pushing away the love and delight being shown to us.
So it’s good to consider your own stuff… how do you want to expand, and fly in your own life? And where are you feeling held back and worried about the pushback you might receive? It’s good to consider.
I am going to share from my own experiences, and please consider the above of your own stuff too. The reason I share my stories here is so that we can all grow together. Sometimes I get notes of sympathy and even pity about the things I share… as nice as that is, this isn’t why I am telling you though. I am telling you so we can all get out of hell together and stop nurturing what’s been broken.
It’s time for us to heal and step into our fabulous lives and stretch beyond our comfort zones. All of us.
Those of you who’ve known me forever will say I am a truth-teller. But it’s still painful to be recognized for that because I was teased for a lot of my life for saying what other people weren’t.
Today, when people say, Robin, I want to share what you do but people won’t get it! Sometimes they’ll say, There is too much woo in this message. Or, I tell my friends, Robin may seem a bit mad at first, but give her a chance and you’ll love her!
Well…sometimes my feelings do get hurt when I hear that but I know this is coming from an old place in me. The friends saying it aren’t bad or wrong. I have edges I need to heal. So do you. So consider how what I am sharing fits into your own experience as you listen along.
If you anticipate getting pushback, if you worry about being teased, or being too much for the people in your life, my question to you then is, are you curbing your light? Are you toning down who you are, are you holding something back?
How would it be to sit with these questions as a meditative practice and ask yourself: Who am I? And what would it mean to be yourself, exactly as you are in your life, sharing and shining as you?
Sit with these questions. Ponder and journal on them. It’s huge!
We owe it to ourselves to not continue to hold our light back because of our fear of what other people will think!
Imagine how freeing it would be to be yourself, exactly as you are… no more curbing your essence or light in fear of what others would say?
Have there been times in your life where you’ve regretted sharing it?
Times where you’ve gone away saying, never again?
How would it be to take your power back? Take your fierce commitment to your own heart back, and say I am going to be me wherever I go. I will celebrate myself and the fullness of my own heart as much as possible.
I will be me, wherever I go!
Let’s decide to stop worrying about the mean things people might say. NO MORE!
I can remember years ago, running a course on Facebook and things went to hell in a handbasket with a few people, who got very mad at me because of what I taught about… and I was so hurt, so upset, so scared to teach the class again. BUT! I decided,
“I am determined to see this differently” — ACIM Workbook Lesson 21
You might enjoy the Course in Miracles practices I offer here.
We cannot let people hold us back. The only thing that matters is your freedom and joy, and are you willing to do what that takes to get there?
That’s all that matters.
All upset represents evidence that there is a miracle on the horizon for you and it is time to do the practice. And what is our practice? To go boldly forward, not hold back our light because of our fear or a few silly comments someone made.
So much of the time this is all fear in our heads anyway, and then we decide not to show up and shine.
I don’t want us to be 10 years from now still telling the story about that one crappy thing that happened. But I did that too, I carried and carried those poopy stories with me… my ego was so strong and it wanted to stay alive and it was strongly identified with suffering over how people didn’t want me to shine.
None of us is bad for this happening — it is happening for all of us for our healing.
People tell me all kinds of things like,
Robin! That was the medicine I didn’t like taking!
Robin! I can’t share your stuff because people wouldn’t understand!
Robin! I tell my friends, “She seems a bit mad at first but give her a try and you’ll see, she’s great.”
I know all of this is a compliment in a way. It’s meant to say, You really offer powerful healing, and it isn’t always the easiest to take, but thank you!
Thing is, my inner child still hurts when this happens. And it’s OK. Truly. We can see this is what’s going on and choose to do the work. Right?
If we continue to worry about what everyone else thinks, we will never get out there. Who isn’t scared… I am a lot! But does that really matter? I mean, if you’re putting your heart and soul into your work, isn’t it natural that you’d feel fear sometimes?
Related: The Fifth Chakra
We have to learn to welcome all the feelings in. If you feel afraid, or anxious, or your feelings get hurt… we have to welcome that in and love ourselves. If we don’t do that, we will re-create the wounding that was done to us. You know?
Your feelings will be hurt. And you will find out you cared about what people thought. And none of that means you’re stupid. It’s okay. What matters most is what you choose to do with the experience, what comes next.
Help yourself take your heart a bit further. You don’t have to stay here!
I talk about our love maps, and the families we were raised in where often it was toxic love, and how we continue to recreate the situations instead of healing it.
Make space for you. Your feelings are awakening messages back to your heart.
Who you truly are is a miracle, is a light sparkler, is a spark of the divine. Are you being that or are you betraying that?
Be who you are, no changesies or takebacks in fear of other people’s reception of you.
And if you need help with that, I am right here. I am here to walk with you and help you heal this. A friend today said, I have such a hard time receiving help! and I said, But, you do it so beautifully here! And she said, Because you’re safe and I can tell you anything, and you never judge me.
There’s a reason we walk together, friend.
I tell a bit about my family story and how I got to studying the Course in Miracles.
“Love created me like itself.” — ACIM WKBK 67
This is our function: To be in the flow of love and shine a light.
I will not take my fear and let it trump what LOVE is. LOL. Oh no, God, you don’t know who I am, I am the one who knows. And I’m weird, different, and people don’t love me. NO.
You’ll be reminded a lot in the form of friction and discomfort. It’s good. The contrast is here to wake you up.
We are absolutely 1009% OKAY. Perfect. Beautiful.
And we can choose to hear the compliment and love in the feedback people share with us. Even if we make it up, we can receive it! We do not have to let people ruin our day – because it’s us who is really ruining it.
If you keep running into negative feedback and friends who won’t support you… you may consider looking into why you are continuing to seek water at a dry well. Because once you see it happening, if you continue the pattern, then this is your responsibility now. Blaming it on someone else is not going to help you go anywhere.
To you friends who are creatives. Your work inspires me endlessly. We don’t want to let our fear of criticism get into our work. Don’t wrap it in. Don’t envelop the fearful energy in. We are all manifesting all the time. We are always calling in what we think about. The anticipation of being teased or rejected or criticized is NOT what we want most! Choose to be inspired and help yourself and remember what we want most is the feeling of freedom and joy and sharing our light and owning our sliver of the universe and really being a light sparkler. And that means, if somebody wants to poo-poo it, it’s irrelevant!! (I know it doesn’t always feel easy to do this but we can practice, this is what we need to remember!)
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” –Theodore Roosevelt
With so much love in my heart, I say, Don’t you dare hold back your light in fearing others won’t accept you! Your highest goal in this world is to remember who you are and shine a light. And who are you? You are a miracle. You come from God, a spark of the creative cosmos.
If you change who you are to sound like other people, then all you’ll do is sound like other people.
Because you dare to show up as yourself, somebody else can dare to show up as themselves and feel safe, and seen, and held, and loved in that.
And isn’t that the biggest prize of all? To shine a light. To show up as YOU and make a difference in the world? Isn’t that what you’re always wanting to do?
So how would it be to stay with the excitement in your heart about what you’re doing and what you’re sharing and TRUST that the right people will align with you more readily as you’re in your right heart, presenting your truest self?
I am learning to be okay being proudest of myself the most. And when it hurts, I will keep holding my own hand through it.
Keep asking yourself what you need around this too, my friend. Make space for how you feel. Don’t just slap a spiritual bumper sticker on your forehead and call it good. Help yourself. Love yourself.
And never forget, the REAL you is what the world really needs. All of it. Bumps, bruises, sparkles, love, it needs all of your heart.
May this message serve you well today!
Inspiration this week: e.e. cummings
A Poet’s Advice
A poet is somebody who feels, and who expresses his feeling through words.
This may sound easy. It isn’t.
A lot of people think or believe or know they feel-but that’s thinking or believing or knowing; not feeling. And poetry is feeling-not knowing or believing or thinking.
Almost anybody can learn to think or believe or know, but not a single human being can be taught to feel. Why? Because whenever you think or you believe or you know, you’re a lot of other people: but the moment you feel, you’re nobody-but-yourself.
To be nobody-but-yourself-in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else-means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting.
As for expressing nobody-but-yourself in words, that means working just a little harder than anybody who isn’t a poet can possibly imagine. Why? Because nothing is quite as easy as using words like somebody else. We all of us do exactly this nearly all of the time-and whenever we do it, we’re not poets.
If, at the end of your first ten or fifteen years of fighting and working and feeling, you find you’ve written one line of one poem, you’ll be very lucky indeed.
And so my advice to all young people who wish to become poets is: do something easy, like learning how to blow up the world-unless you’re not only willing, but glad, to feel and work and fight till you die.
Does this sound dismal? It isn’t.
It’s the most wonderful life on earth.
Or so I feel.
(Reply to a letter from a high-school editor; published in Ottawa Hills (Grand Rapids, Mich.)
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This week’s letter: #abundancenow
Lauren here. I almost didn’t write (because I’ve already written you twice!!) but then you said don’t be shy. I hope this is okay. I have a question.
Money has been a struggle for me for a long time. I’ve done a lot of work around this – like several years of intensive work. I feel a lot more conscious of this aspect of my life. But I’m here, now, looking for a job and it feels a little like the same old. I’ve been at it for nearly two weeks and not a peep from anyone. It feels hard because my partner has a lot of ease around money and sometimes I feel kind of like an incompetent loser. Which I know I’m not, but it comes up when I’m feeling the lowest.
I don’t understand what I’m doing wrong. What am I doing wrong?? I’m doing the work every day, I’m reading the abundance book, I’m trying to feel good, I’m doing things I like in the meantime.
I’m also a healer with a brand new practice. Should I be going for that full time?
Mostly things are great and I manage to feel good while I’m waiting. But sometimes I feel really down and frustrated (like today) as if there’s something I am missing. Am I missing something? I guess that’s my question. I appreciate you even taking the time to read this. Thank you.
Your podcasts really brighten my Monday. I look forward to them every week. Thank you, Robin, so much!!
Ps. I feel a little embarrassed to send this but I’m going to send it before I think too much about it.
For the reals, my friend, there are so many people out there right now nodding along with you. Take that in. How would it feel to surrender your judgment, your worry, your fear, and choose to practice instead?
When the money stories come let’s practice. It’s like the doorbell is ringing and I need to open the love door in my heart and allow myself to receive everything that’s right here.
Ask for guidance. Offer up your struggle. The e.e. cummings advice I just read, it’s like so many of us are in our heads thinking we’re practicing but we’re not we’re just thinking about it.
Related: I AM Loving Awareness Meditation
Applying the practice means the fear comes and I soften in my body and I breathe. I learn to love everything that’s coming to my awareness and I breathe and relax I know that spirit is with me, guiding me helping me and the only thing I need to do is show up and shine.
There’s nothing I need to decide to do I only need to allow myself to follow the flow of what I really feel drawn to do. No, I’m not talking about laying around the apartment doing nothing all day–I know people who have tried that, it didn’t work. I’m saying you know spirit is whispering to us all the time, let’s listen. Let’s trust.
This is what Leonard Cohen sings in the song about the crack where the light gets in, give up your perfect offering. You don’t need to strategize this one and the question back to you are you a healer are you here to help are you here to assist people? Yes? Then trust in that.
There’s no need to push any of this. Don’t forget you put a lot of light in your cosmic escrow account already… give some time for the opportunities to appear.
I suggest that when you feel envious of your guy and what he is earning, etc, make it a practice to celebrate your guy and his abundance and know that maybe for this time there’s enough there for the both of you.
I’ve told the story here before but my first paid healing job, my first paid client found me! (I like to call them friends on the journey cuz that’s really how we are) I did nothing on my own. If you study the Course in Miracles, this comes from the text chapter 18.
I need do nothing. It’s a nice practice. Something to use as a mantra when I catch my brain strategizing, worrying, wondering, this is my opportunity to practice.
Is it possible that you place too much faith in your own mind and body? Who is your true source of abundance? I know this might sound really out there to some of you… but, what else can we rely on besides our own puny minds full of fear? Think about it. Letting go and trusting as you said… doing what you love… letting yourself enjoy and appreciate is the way to do this.
We’re always connected with Spirit, whether we believe that or not, and if this is the path for you as a lightworker then this is the practice for you is a lightworker. We don’t get to carry worry and fear without practicing 😉 We have to practice in all the areas of our lives and really let ourselves trust in calling that in.
I feel a lot of light around you, Lauren. And it’s very likely you’ll tell me cool things have happened already… I love those really cool coincidences which affirm all of what I’ve just said.
Like the day I was there wondering if I was ever going to have work and I decided to stop and surrender and then my very first client rolled up to my house, rolled down her window and said, “Excuse me! Are you Robin the healer?” And I said, “Yes, yes I am.” And that’s how I landed my first job in healing 🙂
In between finding the work you’d love to do, there’s nothing wrong with being a barista or something fun like that… it’s great to soften your fear by taking some action, you know? So softening and relaxing!
Trust that you live a blessed life now, and blessed things come to you all the time. AND, when we show up as our truest self the people who’ve already been looking for us and what we offer– it’s like we become this beacon–they can find us because there’s no more posturing there’s no more pretending there’s no more hiding our light under a bushel.
So, may that serve you, love!
If I can read a letter for you, if I can shine a light, or you have a follow up topic for a future episode write to me here.
Show references below
A Course in Miracles Quotes:
“I am determined to see this differently” — ACIM Workbook Lesson 21
“I Need Do Nothing” — ACIM Text, Chapter 18, Section VII
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🎈🎈🎈 Hi! ❤️ Here’s to Episode 57: On shining brightly as yourself, no changesies or takebacks. There will always be people in your life who complain about or criticize your message. And they may tease you about being so sparkly… but worrying about them is such a disservice to the light within you. LOVE created you like itself. You are beautiful, powerful, sparkling, and 1009% unique. Be you. Share your light with the world as yourself. Learn to shuck off the worries about what other people think. Come have a listen, this episode is so powerful for creatives of all kinds 🙂 The inspiration this week is timely, some love and advice from e.e. cummings on what it takes to be creative, and our letter is from a lightworker friend who’s wondering where her abundance is. Winner winner, chicken dinner! Come grab a cuppa yum yum and meet me here. ❤️ 🦋 Listen to Episode 57: Don’t Hold Back Your Light, Be Yourself, #abundancenow http://robinhallett.libsyn.com/episode-57-dont-hold-back-your-light-be-yourself-abundancenow Link in bio for full episode on iTunes, Spotify, Google Podcasts, or wherever you enjoy listening Always, thank you so much for supporting the podcast! I appreciate your awesome reviews, and you sharing these episodes with friends who can benefit. Want me to read your letter on the show? DM me here or email hello @ robinhallett.com #teawithrobin @robinhallett